I’ve written about feelings before, and it seems to bear repeating. Any time we hear someone say, ” I feel like… ,” the person saying it is NOT speaking about their feelings. They’re about to tell you what they’re thinking.
They’re more likely in their heads. ” Danger, danger Will Robinson! ” What they are erroneously indicating is a ” feeling ” is again, what they ” think,” and our thinking can be unhelpful or even dangerous to our well being when we call it our feelings. Hopefully, this phrase of mispeaking will soon go out of style in the United States.
People can shift this unhelpful, sloppy habit to a habit of clear and accurate communication about how they feel. We’ve learned through the years that feelings are: happy, sad, angry, frustrated, excited, anxious, nervous, comfortable, relaxed, uncomfortable, joyful to name a few. When we learn the language of emotions or feelings, we can start to identify more responsibly, responsively and accurately our current state of being. Then we can pause to respond more and react less. Both of these require awareness – which we gain by talking regularly with our sponsors, attending weekly meetings, and practicing thoughtful self inventory on a daily basis. As we develop healthier habits of conduct and expression, little by little, we can live happier lives. Another blessing of recovery.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning about feelings. ”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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