When I was learning how to be a different kind of person, a member of a group rather than the leader, I had a lot to learn. One of the simplest things was how to have fun. At work they made us use these day planners in which we made lists each day of what to accomplish with our jobs. It worked well for me and helped me be very productive, get noticed, and get promoted. I figured if it worked so well on the job, it would probably work for the rest of my life as well.
So, I started a list of fun things to do for the year. To remind myself of my options it made sense to hang it some place obvious – on the refridgerator. And it worked. On the list were; try 3 new restaurants this year, go out dancing with friends, have a potluck party, putt-putt golfing, socialize after meetings, playing games and cards, guided meditation, yoga class, go for walks, vacation someplace new, window shop (my budget was limited), museum visits, botanic garden membership, hike in the mountains at least twice a month, skiing, ceramics class, hot air balloon crewing on Saturdays, sketching, day road-trips. Later, as my budget allowed, I made a list of more restaurants that people said were good and set out to try each one with friends. It really helped me to have these goals.
Now the list was pretty varied, but for me it was well rounded and got me out of my trend of isolation. Using a list to spark my imagination about activities really broadened my horizons and nurtured my sense of adventure, my courage and my curiousity. And, I learned to have fun. People in the program were great examples to me about the value of getting out of my comfort zone, and trying new things. I stopped playing it safe and felt the freedom that comes from having new adventures. It can be exciting. The trick is to make the time to make the plan to do these new activities. Then take action on it. It helps to have a few people to buddy up with too. But, many times I threw myself into these activities with new people, strangers, and there I made new friends. Some, I did on my own when necessary. Many learning opportunities were available because I was into action for me. And it’s still working! Perhaps it will work for you too. Try it and see.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am trying new things. ”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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