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Accepting The Moment

My sponsor was off to see her sponsor in another state the other day.  She had confirmed her ride to the airport from me, and was looking forward to seeing her dear friend and sponsor for a one on one visit. 

It didn’t happen.  We made sure she arrived at the airport on time, she boarded the plane, they were on the tarmack – but the weather South of us chose not to cooperate.  They reboarded a couple of times, and then 5 hours later the flight was cancelled.  My sponsor called me to request a ride home and she had the best attitude about the whole thing.  She’ll be seeing her sponsor in a few more weeks, and it just wasn’t meant to be this weekend.  It’s always helpful to have that accepting attitude reinforced and renewed in my consciousness and see the grace of a Higher Power in action right before my eyes.

So I picked her up, drove her home and she had a peaceful, cozy evening.  We laughed about how the unexpected can shift our plans, and I was grateful that she’s safe and sound thanks to the good work of airline professionals who protected many people from some serious stormy weather.  All’s well.  And I spent some quality time with my sponsor!

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning to accept life on life’s terms. ”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

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Golden Opportunities

A sponsee has been so inspiring in that she is sooooo open to continue learning and growing. 

Recently, she returned to school for an executive level class in her realm of expertise.  It’s a relatively new field.  Things haven’t gone quite as she would have liked.  And at the same time, because of that, she now has the opportunity to learn more about areas in which she can make changes and grow.  She will be able to carry these changes from the workplace, out into her personal life as well.

While it has been humbling for her to learn about some gaps in her acumen, she has accepted the evidence with grace and a willingness to grow from the seeming adversity.  There are golden opportunities for her which will impact her in countless positive ways going forward – because she’s open to it.  Some may see this situation as one of those times when it gets worse before it getts better.  And it does get better, and better, when we get out of the way and accept what is before us as an opportunity.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am open to the possibilities.”

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What People Think

The last post you read had numerous typos and there was nothing I could do about it.  Our internet connection, or the website, or the internet in general were not cooperating with me.  Although aware of the mistakes, there was nothing for me to do but accept it, and wait out the technical challenges until today.  The editing was finally possible!

So how did my pride fair over the past 2 days – pretty well actually.  Which means that I’ve made progress.  There was a time where my patience, pride, and perfectionistic ego would have been out of balance about it – because looking good was that important.  What would people think?  Well, in 100 years no one will care.  That’s what I’ve come to realize – it’s not that important.  And probably no one out there is too upset that the text was unedited.  Perhaps a few of you wondered what happened, but I’ll just bet that none of you thinks I’m a bad person, or irresponsible or incompetent, or uneducated – need I go on?  Of course not, but those are the thoughts that used to go through my mind if things weren’t perfect.  And that’s not fair.

Once again, the opportunity was presented for me to accept that there was nothing to do but wait out the glitches and edit the text when the system allowed.  Meanwhile, there was life to live, meetings to attend, walks to take through our beautiful Spring sunshine puddles, homework to do, and laughter to laugh at the jokes friends were sharing with us.  In other words, life went on and it wasn’t the end of the world.  This morning the site let me edit, so all’s well.  If you wish, reread it in final form.  Otherwise, move on with me to this posting, and tomorrow’s.  It’s so nice to be human, laugh about it and just move on.  We can do that with any mistakes that occur whether by our actions or by things out of our control.  Life is not a contest to constantly be judged – it’s meant to be lived – fully, freely and with a good helping of fun.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning to accept. ”

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Winter Beauty

Today I woke up to another beautiful white blanket of snow.  Where we live, snow happens often in the Winter.  This year we’re having less sunshine than normal for our Winter season and it’s a great opportunity to focus on what’s good about the weather, instead of how dark and dreary the day to the eye.

My teachers of how to focus on what I like, what’s good, and what there is to be grateful for come from 12 Step programs.  At meetings, women and men have taught me how to find the “silver lining” in the darkest of days and the toughest of situations.  Their courage and positive attitudes have taught me to have hope always, and develop patience.  Somewhere in 12 Steps or some other philosophy is the idea that it’s the tough, unappealing times that teach us how wonderful the easy, attractive times truly are – everything’s relative.  I can wear rose colored glasses and enjoy my day as p. 416-421 in Edition lV and 448-452 in Edition III of the AA Big Book tells me.  Or, I can sit in the problem and waste the day.  Accepting what is, and learning to find the positive and support it in my life is an answer that works for me.

There’s that Acceptance again.  Something I used to fiercely resist, but which now I usually enthusiastically embrace.  There are moments where my persistence faulters a bit, but usually, the acceptance wins out.  Yeh!  It’s so much easier, takes so much less energy and keeps me in the present moment most of the time.  So today, the snow is beautiful, the house is warm, the cat is fed and I’m making good progress on my homework.  I’m happy, and even though the website isn’t letting me post a beautiful picture today – I’ll add it when it’s working again – I’m happy to be able to focus on all my blessings, right now.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am present in my life.”

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Acceptance and Letting Go

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When we work on detaching we need to accept things exactly the way they are, and then let go and let God.

It’s tempting to take things back though.  If we determine on our own or with our sponsor that something is none of our business, then we need to start acting as if we really mean that.  We don’t check up on things with a person.  We don’t sneak around, trying to find out what’s going on.  We don’t gossip.  Period.  And we don’t criticize and blame.  We can really only talk about our feelings.

Recently, a friend called me because she was very anxious about the potential consequences if her husband didn’t complete a project that they had legal obligations depending upon by a certain deadline.  She’d chosen to let go and let him be responsible on his own for this part of the project – knowing that his usual pattern is to procrastinate until the last minute.  Here was another opportunity to continue to let go and keep focused on her own business and what’s good and right about today.  Her anxiety was coming from her projection into the future about the difficulties they would face if he failed to complete the project on time.  My friend was not a victim though.  She’d volunteered to be in a position that could make her feel uncomfortable and anxious.  So the option was to accept, as it says on 416-421 of the 4th edition, and 448-452 in the 3rd edition of the Big Book.  When we’re impacted negatively in any way by what’s going on that we’ve chosen to let go of, we can accept, and we can communicate how we feel – uncomfortable, scared, anxious, confused, frustrated.  The rest is out of our control.  The learning is that we don’t have to set ourselves up in that type of situation going forward.  So, we’re accountable and responsible for starting to do things differently.  When we change, things change.  And others may change – that’s up to God.

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Affirmation for the Day – ” I am making good choices for me.”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

Course In Miracles Lesson –  I am not a body, I am free.  For I am still as God created me.  I call upon God’s Name and on my own.

Practice – I am not a body, I am free.  For I am still as God created me.  I call upon God’s Name and on my own.  The name of God is my deliverance from every thought of evil and of sin, because it is my own as well as His.

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Patience

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Sometimes the process of patience makes me want to scream or cry.  We deal with so many unknowns with the disease of alcoholism and addiction.  When a dual diagnosis is added, mental illeness, it becomes even more complicated.

What I keep being reminded of is that there’s no rule book.  There’s no right or wrong.  However, there’s much trial and error on both sides of these diseases.  It’s frustrating, and there are times when after being extremely patient I reach a point where “I want what I want when I want it.”  Ugh!  And it really doesn’t matter – because it doesn’t work that way. 

Instead, God gently reminds me that this too is about my fear of either not getting what I want or losing something I have.  Another opportunity to let go and let God.  Do what’s in front of me to do.  Breathe.  Accept that I don’t have control and focus on what’s good in my life.  All of the things that work to help me do work, if I do them.  Today, I don’t really want to do them – like writing this post.  I didn’t want to do it.  But, already it feels better that a regular part of my day is now complete and something positive has been accomplished.  This is realtime what’s happening in my life.  While I may not have something else that I want yet, I can choose to have a good day even feeling the feelings of exasperation, sadness and hurt – they will pass.

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Affirmation for the Day – ” I love and accept myself.  I love and approve of myself.”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

Course In Miracles Lesson – Salvation of the world depends on me

Practice – Salvation of the world depends on me.

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Another Beautiful Day

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Each day we can choose what to make of our lives.  What that means is we have the opportunity to consciously choose how we want to see and experience our day.

There’s a missing loved one in my life right now.  If it weren’t for the 12 Step programs the quest to find that person, or the obsession of making my life about them would consume me.  It would distract me from the present moment, which in the case of today is another beautiful June morning.  I can write stories or plays in my head about the what, where, how and why of my missing loved one, or turn them over to my Higher Power and let it go.  God will take care of them, and of bringing them home – in God’s time.  I don’t even have to like it – just accept it.

Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t easy at times.  I have my moments.  Thanks to the program I can feel the feelings in the moment and get on with my day.  The situation isn’t crippling as it once was.  My whole life is not on hold because of it, in fact it’s not a crisis.  It just is, for today.  I am in the present moment most of the time – thank you God.  Meanwhile, I have work that I enjoy, a roof over my head, money coming in, a soon to be fruitful vegetable garden to tend, baby bunnies in the dandelions, good friends who love and support me in the program, sponsorship relationships and meetings.  This week it’s become apparent that I’m actually having perfect days.  Really perfect days that are so satisfying.  And, I’m thanking God for another most beautiful sunny day.

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Affirmation for the Day – ” I am having perfect days.”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

Course In Miracles Lesson – I walk with God in perfect holiness.

Practice – I walk with God in perfect holiness.  I light the world, I light my mind and all the minds which God created one with me.

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