When fear comes up in conversations with sponsees and others, it comes in many forms – anxiety, nervousness, jealousy, anger, rage, panic. Early in program work, people told me that there are really only two emotions, fear and love. We can operate from a base of either. It’s our choice. That was good news for me, but there was one problem. While operating from a base of love is what appealed most to me, I didn’t know how to do it.
In my family of origin, fear ruled. In most cases, fear was the modus operandi and it was loud and angry. Thanks to suggestions from a wise therapist I learned it didn’t have to be that way. One day I mentioned feeling fearful about what to do now that I’d been through another layoff – it was the third of five. She asked ” Could you transform that fear into excitement? ” It was a surprising option, one I’d never considered before, and it was an attractive alternative to the fear.
Applying this method to the appearance of fear has served me well and been shared with many others who have benefited, too. When fear appears, we can do what we did as children when we came across something new. We can transform it to excitement, anticipation, curiosity, wonderment, even delight. How’s that for reframing. When we were kids that’s how we usually looked at new things, or changes that were in process. If we can remember the wonder we had for nature, or trips that we took to new places, we can apply that same sensation to most of what might cause us unnecessary fear. Fear is often just a signal of change, or something new. If we keep it simple, we can transform our way of looking at life and restore it to the wonder of childhood.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am looking at things in a positive way. ”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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