One of my sponsees has been struggling with willingness on some of her 9th Step amends. In addition to other suggestions, I mentioned that she may want to talk with some other women who’ve recently worked through the Steps and see what helped them. I’ve been happy to see that she’s following up with other group members.
Many of us approach the 9th Step enthusiastically, and then waffle to and fro with the willingness to go forward with some of these amends. Sometimes, our humility is lacking and pride is in the way. Perhaps any previous self righteousness we used as a fortress to feel superior returns for a visit. It may be that we just aren’t quite sure what will be the best way to approach the amend. With all of these seeming detours on the 9th Step path, we need only call upon our Higher Power and reach out to others for help. Our Higher Power will always respond if we are willing to listen and accept the guidance and direction.
So too, will our sponsor and other members of the program share what worked when they were in our shoes. That’s how it works. We pass on to others what worked for us. We can’t keep it if we don’t give it away. So asking others for help gives them the opportunity to recall what works, which then helps to position it again in their new set of tools for dealing successfully with life. When we ask for help, we are actually giving these members an opportunity to do God’s work with us. That is a blessing in my book.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am reaching out to others.”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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