One of my sponsees has the type of driver personality that makes her want to go, go, go. And she wants to figure everything out yesterday and be done with the learning process.
While her enthusiasm and ambition is admirable, it’s also part of what has kept her on the run from her feelings. By focusing on accomplishing and over achieving she has very effectively run from experiencing her emotions and pushing through them to the other side. It’s the feeling of emotions and then landing on the other side that gives us experience, strength and hope. Progress isn’t something we know, it’s what we learn by doing and working through the entire process. Then we can share it with others and inspire them to have hope and take action. Despite her previous impatience, my sponsee is starting to get it as she pauses when agitated, feels the feelings and allows herself the space to respond instead of reacting. She’s learning the value of patience from her experience.
Much of the progress we make is happening on the inside, invisibly, in increments. New awarenesses are digesting and percolating in our consciousness. This doesn’t usually happen overnight – although it can. Our minds can take time to incorporate the information and the experience of taking action, and then ” we get it.” Even if it doesn’t always make sense, we see that when we practice certain new behaviors, life works better and we feel better eventually. We learn to accept because we see the evidence accumulating to prove that when we work the Steps and practice the Principles and let our Higher Power run the show – it works. For years I had a math block. My dad and many teachers attempted to help me understand math, but my mind just didn’t get it. Then in my mid-twenties upon returning to college a teacher asked, ” Are you trying to understand how all of these equations work?” When I told him “Yes,” he asked ” Why?” My response was “I thought that’s what we were supposed to do.” He explained to me that all I needed to do was memorize the equations, understand how to use them and do it. After years of disappointing grades in Math, I immediately aced every test thereafter, and earned A’s in every Math class required for my major. For the first time in my life I was able to make the Dean’s List. This was possible because someone wiser told me to keep it simple – just memorize it and do it. That’s how it works. Our Higher Power takes care of the rest.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am making progress every day.”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
Course In Miracles Lesson – Peace to my mind. Let all my thoughts be still.
Practice – Father, I come to You today to seek the peace that You alone can give. I come in silence. In the quiet of my heart, the deep recesses of my mind, I wait and listen for Your Voice. My Father, speak to me today. I come to hear Your Voice in silence and in certainty and love, sure You will hear my call and answer me.