Step 4 seems daunting and so undesirable to many of us. When contemplating going forward with Step 4 we often cringe, resist, avoid and justify delaying the process.
At our recent conference one of the inspirational speakers described Step 4 as an inventory of “Who we aren’t.” He talked about how we came here pure and clean, with everything that we need – as children of God. I like that description. It’s seems true. And we can be restored. We didn’t come here hoping to disappoint, hurt and betray ourselves and those we love. We came here to the planet in baby form – pure, innocent, loving, connected to our Higher Power and with a wonder for life. When people saw us they smiled – and we smiled back. Babies and baby animals cause wonder and make people happy when they see them – could it be because others sense the unblemished, sweet connection we have with our Higher Power when we arrive? I like to think so.
If that could possibly be true, then Step 4 can be who we aren’t, which makes me more attracted to doing it, as soon as possible. As thoroughly as possible. Happily, actually. I did a 4th Step on my marriage recently. Despite working Step 10 avidly previously, there were some events and behaviors and words uncovered which are not who I am – or who I want to be. It was helpful and gratifying to discover these areas where harm was caused to my spouse so I can make amends. What a relief to know that my side of the street is as clean as possible so I can be of maximum service as a partner with the person I chose to love and share my life with. My daily goal is to show my spouse the person my Higher Power sent me here to be. Who I am. What a blessing to have that choice.
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Affirmation for the Day – ” I am a loving child of the Universe.”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
Course In Miracles Lesson – I am not a body, I am free. For I am still as God created me. I choose the joy of God instead of pain.
Practice – I am not a body, I am free. For I am still as God created me. I choose the joy of God instead of pain. Pain is my own idea. It is not a thought of God, but one I thought apart from Him and from His Will. His Will is joy and only joy for His beloved Children, and that I choose instead of what I made.