Step 1 – We admitted we were powerless over acohol, that our lives had become unmanageable. Although it’s the first of the 12 Steps, it can seem like the tallest order. Who would want to admit they were powerless over anything? Or, that their lives were unmanageable – that they were out of control?
No one would want to, but when we’re desperate enough, tired enough, and willing to surrender we can admit these things. And there is power in surrender, as a good friend of mine in the program promised me in my first year. When we surrender, it opens doors to possibilities that previously were unavailable to us. And it doesn’t matter the addiction; drugs, food, alcohol, gambling, people, sex, spending, hoarding. They are all symptoms of the real problem, the cause. They are what we were choosing instead of feeling the emotions that spring from the mistaken thinking that happens in our heads. And it is mistaken. We find ourselves trapped in a spiral of automatic unhelpful, thoughts, behaviors and actions that do not serve our well being.
When we know better, we do better. I do believe that statement. We may be reluctant, or even defiant. But when we are desperate enough we can choose to try what has worked for so many hundreds of thousands of other people around the world. I remember thinking prior to finding the 12 Step programs, that there had to be a better way to live. It didn’t seem possible that everyone on the planet was as sad and hopeless as I felt when witnessing such unkind, self-defeating and at times cruel actions between people. ” There have to be people who live happier lives than I’ve this.” That was my thought. And my Higher Power has confirmed it for me, and led me to what will continuously transform my life for the better. For me and for those whose lives I impact. Progress starts with the 1st Step.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am surrendering.”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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