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Reaching Out

The other day a good friend of mine reached out for Alanon support.  I was so grateful for a few different reasons.

First, I’d wondered to what degree her husband’s drinking might be interfering in their relationship.  She’d mentioned it in the past, but not gone into much detail about it.  My guess was that there may be more to it, but Alanon has taught me to be patient, and mind my own business.  When she asked how I did it when times got tough at home in my family, as Alanon suggested I shared my experience, strength and hope about how the 12 Steps and other Alanon members supported me to take care of me first.

The second reason I was glad she’d called was because due to diminished sleep for three days, my condition was “vulnerable” teetering on “weepy to pity party.”  Although I hadn’t yet crossed the line to full pity, it was dangerously about to infringe upon my serenity and sanity.  Her call got me out of myself and reminded me to be available to pass on what has been so generously shared with me through the years.  Really, thank God for her call.  She saved me from going down the road to insanity and unreasonability.  The gifts of the program are wonderous and timely.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am approachable. ”

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Beautiful Christmas!

For those of us who celebrate Christmas, today was a beautiful Christmas Day!  For those who don’t, it was equally as beautiful. 

For all of us, it was another day to be grateful for and enjoy.  And enjoying our lives in a spirit of peace, love and relatedness to all of life is, I believe, our true task on the planet.  We noticed yesterday and today how people were patient and deferential, smiling and extending courtesies to each other.  That is how we’re meant to be toward others each and every day.

Perhaps a resolution for the new year could be to carry that spirit of thoughtful, pleasant and loving attitude into all of our daily activities.  Wouldn’t that be a lovely gift to the planet!  And to each and every one of us.  We are really all related and it is delightful to envision us treating each other as the children of God/Spirit that we all truly are.  Ahhhhhh.  Thank You God, Thank You God, Thank You God.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am relating peacefully and lovingly to others. ”

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Choosing Service

Service work is not something we do only in connection to the 12 Step programs.  We can also contribute to the greater community through a myriad of non-profit events and activities for we are each responsible for stewarding our planet with our personal life talents. 

Saturday, my husband and I attended training for an event that happens twice a year to help the homeless.  We think the work done by this non-profit is admirable and so worthwhile for our entire community.  Other ways that we serve are less obvious than this event.  Sometimes, service work is as simple as a smile to a stranger on the street – perhaps the only one they receive that day.  It’s good for them to receive it, and might be even be more helpful for them when they return it, which they inevitably tend to do.

When considering the type of service work we participate in, it’s helpful to think about the many categories in which we can all contribute.  Both in the 12 Step Programs – volunteering as a trusted servant or at an event, sponsoring, telling our stories at a treatment center or family program, or in our local or global communities we have many opportunities.  Being thoughtful and deliberate in our choices can lead us to results that are overwhelming in the way they touch others.  I’ve found them to be very moving and heartwarming for me, without exception.  And we’ve committed to participating throughout the year.  It keeps us grateful for our many blessings, and passing it on as the Programs teach us – so we can keep it.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am making a difference for someone today. ”

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Blessings

We are booked out 3 weeks for business right now.  This is a miracle – truly due to our Higher Power.  By next week we may be booked out about a month.  And we’ve only been at this for a little over a month.  Thank You God.  We’re doing what’s in front of us to do, and my husband is working long hours.  What’s more, we are honored to be able to offer work to other families as he needs help and the amount of work coming in requires a crew of at least 3 people now.  We’re in awe. 

The other night we both shared with each other that fear had come calling at the door of our consciousness recently.  For me, it was like a little trick  suggesting that the work coming to us might not last – I saw the fear and let it go and thanked God for our blessings, recommitted to trusting in my Higher Power.  For my husband it came in the form of negative self talk telling him that he didn’t deserve all of the new jobs.  We discussed the falsehood of this thought which he hadn’t really recognized as negative self talk, and reached the point of seeing that we are both God’s handiwork and we deserve to have good things come to us.  We want to share the good with others and that means even more honoring of our Higher Power.

What a blessing that we have the teachings of the 12 Step programs to remind us that when we live by the principles of the Programs life gets better.  And we deserve it.  We have been through a lot in the last few years.  We have been willing to work on ourselves and accept the challenges and focus on gratitude for the blessings.  We ended our discussion with a prayer of gratitude for what we are receiving, and a request for guidance and direction as we go forward.  Sharing that time together was my favorite time of the week.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am worthwhile without proof. ”

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Practicing

My husband was a little embarassed by that last posting.  He thought I was just bragging about him and didn’t initially see that what I was focused on is my gratitude for all of his hard work and how just doing what’s in front of us to do helps us make progress.  The programs tell us this, and it’s up to us to take the action.

I’m happy to report that after the nine assignments, tests and presentations that were due last week and the three interviews, I have good news and more gratitude.  A few hours after my third interview on Saturday I was offered a practicum position!  It’s located closest to home and school, and it will have more than enough hours for me to finish my masters degree on time!  I may even be able to finish a little early.  And we have two more contracts signed to start this week and another bid to do.  Okay so obviously I’m stuck on a theme this week.  This is all the result of our Higher Powers taking care of everything while we focus on the tasks before us each day.  There were a few moments in the past week when a little fear flashed across my screen tempting me to doubt.  I think my husband had a round with it too.  But for both of us it was fleeting.  And fear didn’t stop either of us from doing what needed to be done.

There was a time where it would have been easy to grab onto that fear and ride it out to the unpleasant state of lack of serenity and insanity.  No thanks.  Not interested.  Nor does that mean that we can get cocky and arrogant about our blessings and good fortune to date.  It was only a month and a half ago that we didn’t know how we would pay the bills.  We’re making good progress, and we have more to do.  Sometimes I still feel like such a beginner.  When we are out of debt, then we will celebrate in a big way.  Meanwhile, we have small celebrations, hugs, prayers of gratitude, passing on any jobs we aren’t capable of doing to others in our network of friends and colleagues.  And we’re doing our best to carry the message and practice the principles of the program in all areas of our lives, daily.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am practicing the principles daily. ”

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Letting Go Gracefully

Today I learned of the passing of my girlfriend’s father.  She’s in 12 Step programs and has been an inspiration to me through the years.  She has been a model of grace, detachment, love  sanity and serenity in the face of difficult circumstances when dealing with her family of origin.

Her family is quite large, and as with so many of our families, some of her siblings (more than in most families) have presented her with the difficulties we face with addictions, mental illness and the boundary issues that are inherent in dysfunctional family systems.  It can be challenging.  My friend has diligently worked to determine appropriate boundaries, mind her own business and when necessary, as she would say “Just let ’em whirl.”  She’s shared this with me when I called her for her words of wisdom, and they have helped me through many of my own opportunities for growth. 

What she learned to do because of the 12 Step programs is how to be a good daughter, loving and tolerant and firm in setting helpful boundaries that allowed her to have a relationship with her father in which she could be of service.  While many were whirling around them, she was able to maintain her dignity and self respect, mind her own business and focus on what’s important in life – giving back to her father in meaningful ways that added value for both of them.  I’m grateful to be able to share the wonderful example she has set for all of us.  God bless us all.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am letting go and letting God.”

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The Birds

Oh my goodness.  The birds are just so happy every morning, singing and twittering away at the top of their lungs.  That’s real twittering.

And they are all calling out in their very own voices.  Distinct.  Consistent.  Looking for mates and celebrating the morning.  Happy, happy, happy.  Wouldn’t it be great if every morning, we all – the humans – called out in clear, singing voices to celebrate the day with eachother.  What if we all were true to ourselves, connected to our inner wisdom and the special, talented and very unique creatures that we are and broadcast that to eachother in complementary notes of celebration and praise for the morning.  For the day before us.  For the joy that is life – if we choose for it to be a joy.

That would be some way to start the day.  What a chorus!  Imagine projecting your best to everyone, every day.  It’s a great goal to work toward.  I’m listening to those birds right now and they are truly inspiring when I just take a moment to listen.  Amazing!  And when I make the time to listen well to another human being, they too, are truly amazing!  What we focus on grows and multiplies – so choosing wisely can make the day.  Today I’ll smile at people, even if I don’t know them.  Sounds like a good start.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning to listen to others.”

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