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Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary – together. 

What a blessing, and so nice.  Some of our past anniversaries we spent away from each other.  Alcohol was in the way.  This year we were able to celebrate our loving, our mountain wedding which was probably the most fun thing I’ve ever done – we laughed because of the blizzard that caught us off guard – and we also celebrated our perseverance.  We’ve both been through some tough trials because of alcoholism.  And the 12 Step programs, other programs, therapy, and our Higher Powers keep us moving forward.  I have learned about love through it all. 

Love isn’t what I thought it would be.  Mainly it’s a lesson in letting go of expectations, being grateful for the blessings and especially the little moments in each new day, and in patiently learning not to take everything so seriously.  Sometimes I wonder if our trials have made me more numb emotionally during the tough times.  Instead, it seems my ability to detach and lighten up about everything have really just improved.  I’m so much easier to be around.  My husband is too.  We have so much to be grateful for in our time together.  And the miracle is, he is still teaching me new things about love.  Thank You God!

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning to love.”

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Living In Fear or Love

Living in fear is something we don’t have to do.  The “ism” of the 12 Step programs is in our minds – it’s all about our thinking.  We don’t have to be drinking, obsessing about people, overeating, gambling, or obsessing about sex to have the” ism ”  still active in our lives.   All of those destructive outlets were actually the result of the” ism” in our thinking.  The 1st Step tells us to admit that we were powerless over those destructive outlets, and that our lives have become unmanageable.  The unmanageability is what fear does to us.  And we can learn to live from and in a different mind frame.

Awareness is half the solution (I love that phrase) is so true.  As we grow in awareness, we have more opportunities to make choices.  Whenever we find ourselves angry, impatient, immobilized, procrastinating, critical, jealous, resentful or hurtful (to name a few) we are in a place of fear.  We can choose to stay there, or we can choose to shift to a place of love.  I didn’t know how to do that on my own.  It was important for me to surround myself with people who seemed to be happy, responsible, active, doing for themselves and others, and walking their talk.  Educated or not, again, I really didn’t know how to do this for myself – I had to be taught by people who were already living in a joyful, loving place. Many meetings helped.  Other members taught me patience, humility, responsibility, honesty, humour, communication skills, honor, being of service, and how to walk my talk.  And the process continues today.  Although these are 12 Step programs of progress rather than perfection, we can choose to head in the direction of perfection, a day at a time. 

My life is now filled with joy, and love, and peace, and adventure, and humour – even in the face of life challenges.  Most of the time I can stay in a place of love, where life is so much easier and less complicated.  That may sound trite or unsophisticated, but it’s true for me.  And it’s a choice that I make, consciously.  With years of practice now, it sometimes comes naturally, automatically.  Especially when faced with the fear of others, I can make the choice to come from a place of love.  If I slip momentarily, I make amends immediately, or as soon as possible, and start over.  Coming from Love makes me feel so much happier.  It just takes practice.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am coming from a place of love. ”

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It’s a beautiful day!  There’s much to be grateful for in my Gratitude List today which starts with the heading “I am grateful for…”

Then I list 25 things, people, situations to be grateful for in my notebook first thing every morning, before I get out of bed.  Today I’m grateful for the love in my life, the sunshine, the warmth just starting where we live and the plans with friends to share meals and fellowship later today.

Great way to frame my day!

Happiness is a more helpful choice each day.  Despite the fact that it would be easy to focus on the behavior of others and then feel frustration, hurt, impatience or anger, I would so much rather focus on being happy.  Happiness actually takes less energy to feel than the fear emotions.

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Affirmation for the Day – ” I am happy.”

I say my affirmations 3 times consecutively.  Louise Hay suggests using a mirror.  It feels funny at first, then it starts feeling more comfortable – and it makes the affirmation more powerful.

Course In Miracles Lesson  – I share God’s Will for happiness for me,  and I accept it as my function now.” 

Happy Easter and  Blessed Passover.

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