Posts tagged Self Care

H.A.L.T.

The helpful tools we learn to keep us on track are so simple.  Take for example, H.A.L.T.  It stands for hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.  When any one of these are present it makes me vulnerable. 

Without a good night’s sleep – say I only slept for 2-3 hours – my concentration is off, my emotional stability is compromised, and I can actually become weepy later in the day which can be embarrassing or at the least, inconvenient.  When this sleep deprivation happens every once in a while, it’s important for me to do extra self-care tasks; take a nap, make sure to eat well, reach out to someone who knows me well and ask for support if needed, say the Serenity Prayer, do an extra Gratitude List, or recite extra Affirmations or pop in the Louise Hay “You Can Heal Your Life” DVD (see the link right, to order).  These methods all help restore my composure for the day.

These tools help us identify activities that maintain balance in our lives.  When hungry, we can eat.  When lonely or angry, we can reach out to others on the phone or go to a 12 Step meeting.  Especially when angry, we can practice the direction on page 552, of the AA Big Book – and it works.  There is no need to suffer, nor is it necessary to inflict our suffering on people with whom we connect each day.  When we use these simple tools – even if things get a little worse first (which can happen) – for the most part life is better in short order.  My personal experience confirms it.  But, we only gain personal experience of these results when we do what is suggested.  It works, if we work it.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am taking care of me. ”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

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More About Patience

I keep learning more about patience.  Today, I was a bit too quick cutting potatoes in the kitchen and cut my finger.  It’s a good knife, so it was a clean cut.  But, very inconvenient timing.

So, it’s time for me to remember to slow down, take care of me and think before acting.  When I take the time to think first and take care of me, there is more of me to be present for others.  Here’s a switch though.  There was a time when my next step would have been to react, get mad, start complaining about everything.  Today, my focus was on not fainting, washing it out, getting a bandaid and antibiotic with the help of my husband and finishing cooking the meal.  Responding came naturally today.  Breathing helped too.  Interestingly enough, my husband seemed to take it harder than I did, and is now doing his form of self-care for a few hours.   Funny how when we change, other people seem to change too.

Anyway, typing this is my test of how well my finger has closed up and will mend so I can do the rest of my work this evening.  I made it to my meeting, was nurtured by the sharing there and feel fortified to accomplish my goals tonight.  My breathing is still normal, relatively deep and relaxed.  Nothing major to attend to, just life.  And we keep getting better at it with practice and patience.  Going slow, breathing and thinking first are the some of the basics of keeping it simple.  It works.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am taking care of me. ”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

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Choosing For Me

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Our garden is a place of wonder and delight for me.

Every time I stop out to say hi, it greets me with some new fruit or vegetable or bug or weed.  They are all mingled in there, coexisting in the sun and the rain with the bunnies and the birds.  Honestly, it is one of the greatest gifts of pleasure that I’ve had in the last 36 months and I gave it to myself, with the help of dear friends who made it possible when my body was still healing from an accident.  The garden was a choice – for me.

As a child, and the oldest, I learned to make choices based on what was best for others instead of me.  That focus was carried into adulthood and often made me resentful, as it sometimes did in childhood.  What was I thinking?  I didn’t know any better.  Since then my experience is that it’s important to make choices based on what’s best for me first, as long as it’s not at other people’s expense.  We all may require some help with discernment about these choices when we first come to 12 Step programs and other recovery processes, and eventually we learn to make appropriate decisions that serve us without costing others.  In fact the best part of this is that when I take care of myself first, there’s more of me to be present for others.  When my spiritual condition is well attended to, my ability to be of service to my Higher Power and others is greater.  At one time I’d have thought choosing for me was selfish.  Now, I can see that it’s the best choice to make for me, for you and for my Higher Power.

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Affirmation for the Day – ” I am making progress daily.”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

Course In Miracles Lesson –  I am in danger no where in the world.

Practice – Father, Your Children are safe wherever they may be, for You are there with them.  They need but call upon Your Name, and they will recollect their safety and Your Love, for they are one.  How can they fear or doubt or fail to know they cannot suffer, be endangered, or experience unhappiness when they belong to You, beloved and loving, in the safety of Your Fatherly embrace.

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