Recently, a family member has been letting me know what emotion they’re feeling, when they’re feeling it. What a welcome change.
They are dealing with some stressful situations as are so many people, due to the economic down turn. Although at times these emotions are accompanied by some bigger expression (louder voice, hand and arm gestures, facial expressions), the communication of the feelings is so much better than the previous acting out! They’re working on expressing in a calm way using more words and less drama. I focus on thanking them for letting me know what’s going on with them, we talk about it if they wish, and when they get to dramatic I can ask them not to take their frustrations, etc. out on the rest of us.
The nice thing is that once this person gives voice to their feelings, any upset seems to dissipate or at least diminish, and we move on. They’re getting much better at sharing their feelings. The 12 Step programs, coupled with therapy for those of us who seek it out, give us all a language to use to express ourselves which most of us were never taught. Again, my belief is that when we know better, we do better. Expressing our feelings in a timely fashion is one way to do better. Expressing ourselves allows us to release ourselves somewhat from the pressure that can build up when we stuff those feelings. This new way of showing up then allows us to be in the moment, the present, so we don’t have to miss anymore of our lives. It’s a good thing.
Affirmation for the Day – ” I am sharing how I feel.”
Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.
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