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Trust

Trust is an interesting concept.  Actually, it seems to be an action that we willingly or sometimes reluctantly make a conscious choice to do. 

We don’t have to trust.  We can go through life suspicious and paranoid thinking people are up to something.  That takes a lot of energy.  It’s also time consuming.  We spend time considering what could go wrong, what might “they” be up to, what don’t we know and how can we protect ourselves from “them?”  Just thinking about existing through life from that mind set makes me feel sad and somewhat tired.  Time to shake it off.

Someone I know has been living in this place of being for a while and they are only starting to learn that it is unnecessary.  But they don’t trust it yet.  They’re tiptoeing into the land of trust and assurance that they will be treated with dignity and respect and honored as the child of God that they are on the planet.  This is a big, and a pretty scarey step for them.  They grew up with intrusions into their privacy, people not showing up to protect them, and numerous disappointments.  However, they can reframe the concept of trust in their mind.  That was then, this is now and they can make the choice, take the risk, to start trusting again.  Baby steps.  One day at a time.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning to trust. ”

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Trust

Tonight our professor asked us to write down the names of 20 people we trusted.  At seven I paused.  Then I wrote down two more. 

The first seven people I trust implicitly.  They are reliable and are mirrors to hold up the truth for me.  There was one person that was conspicuously missing from this list and my hope is for that to change.  It’s in the hands of my Higher Power. 

What stood out most for me about this exercise was that there are just the right number of people for me to trust and count on for the big things in life.  They’ve seen me at my worst and at my best.  They are accepting, patient and tolerant of me through it all.  And they will tell me the truth about life and what’s happening.  Knowing that is a comfort.  Having that gift in my life is a blessing.  And I only hope that they can feel comfortable counting on the same from me.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am learning who to trust. ”

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Step 2

Step 2 – Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.  I’m pretty certain that our little part of the universe is no accident.  If we are all an accident, there are probably other accidents in other realms of the galaxies as well.  Either way, if for no other reason than that life is a phenomenal, outstanding set of natural laws and manifestations, I choose to give credit for it to some Higher intelligence or creator, or spirit just because it seems well deserved.

So, if a Higher Power could create all that we know and see (and also what we don’t yet know about) it’s feasible, for me anyway, to put my trust in that supreme intelligence to staighten out my thinking and my life and restore me to my natural state – one of serenity and sanity- and trust that all will be well. 

It’s a conscious decision I make, each day to let go of any attachment to anger, bitterness and discontent and instead choose to live in a state of love, kindness and happiness today.  Gratitude for what’s in my life helps to bring me to the choice to live from and in this place of being.  We are all able to choose to trust what for some of us is an abstract, intangible energy beyond our understanding.  That leap of faith is an opportunity for growth.  We can choose to trust, if only because of the evidence we see before us in the guise of other members in 12 Step programs who have the sanity in life that we want to experience too.  What a blessing that we can choose to show up in a way that celebrates life and sustains our spirit by trusting in our Higher Power.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am trusting my Higher Power.”

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Step 3

Step 3 requires a leap of faith, a blind trust in a Higher Power that we may not even be certain exists.  Just the idea of Step 3 can make most of us very, very uncomfortable.

When we take a closer look at what we’re being asked to do, while it might not be easy, it is very simple.  We are asked to let go of our pride, our clinging to control (for some of us that means controlling everyone and everything), and our will.  What I’ve learned is that the reason I was sooooooo clinging to these in the first place was to feel safety.  Growing up in homes with dysfunctional systems operating creates uncertainty and instability for most of us as children.  We each choose different coping mechanisms to sooth the fear that uncertainty creates.  Usually, these coping choices are what we see our parents or siblings doing – and let’s face it, they aren’t the best examples of solutions available.  But in retroflect, I can see that my parents were just doing the best they could with what they’d been given, which wasn’t so great either.

So, if relinquishing control, will, and pride is about being courageous and trusting that something outside of us will provide for our well being it still feels terrifying.  I felt helpless and confused.  If I don’t manage things, how will anything work out – the way I want it to?  Well, thanks to all of you in 12 Step programs I experienced something new.  You taught me that I was not alone – you were there with me – at every meeting, on the other end of the phone when I started making calls with the phone list, through my sponsor when I asked for help, and in the miracles that started happening daily.  I had to let go of the outcomes.  My sponsor had me do a Gratitude list daily of what I was grateful for.  The first display of a Higher Power was that within two weeks I was moved in with new roomates – who totally without help from anyone else in the Program were in 12 Step programs.  We’d never seen each other at meetings.  Higher Power orchestrated the whole thing.  I love how it works.  And that was just the beginning.  To be continued…

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am willing to change.”

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