The holidays are coming and already people are feeling the pressure, the stress the foreboding anticipation of seeing family whom they don’t necessarily see on a regular basis.  And there’s a reason we don’t normally see them.  We may have been born into the same families but that doesn’t automatically mean we are the greatest of friends or supporters for each other.

For those of us in 12 Step Programs, we are on a path of recovery that often diverges radically from the path our family of origin has been on – and they don’t really “get it,” that we’re different and focused on maintaining a different lifestyle.  It’s been a few decades of sobriety for me and some of my relatives still ask if I want a glass of wine.  No big deal.  I don’t take it personally.  It’s their stuff that makes them ask, their discomfort with someone not drinking.  I can just politely say, “No thanks,” and move on to another topic or find some way to be of service at the gathering. 

In the meantime, my focus for Thanksgiving is on what I’m bringing for our dinner celebration – pecan pie for my husband, pumpkin pie for everyone, and sweet potatoes.  Okay, so I’m in charge of all the sweets – how usual!  It’s a pleasure for me and my husband loves my cooking.  How nice for both of us.  That fills my heart and gives me great joy.  So simple.  My focus needs to stay on what’s good about the holidays – and on being of service.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am looking for ways to be of service. ”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

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