Grieving and Trauma

Yesterday I received a call from a woman met through a friend of a friend.  Her livein boyfriend of 4 years just stunned her by moving out unannounced.  He went through treatment the last time in January of 2009.  He started drinking and drugging again on the sly in September of 2009.

I invited her to join me at an Alanon meeting last Winter.  She wasn’t ready until Spring, and now she’s interested in attending some meetings as the grief of her loss is interferring with her ability to function.  Grief does that.  From undesirable weight loss, to sleepless nights, to trouble concentrating at work and unexpected and inconvenient surges of emotion.  It helps to talk about it.  Especially when the loss is sudden, which is often a traumatic event.  And trauma lessens as we go through the stages of grieving and healing from the trauma.

It isn’t an easy journey.  And reaching out as she did yesterday to talk and share about her current experience will help her make her way through it.  I know.  I’ve been in her shoes, which is why she feels comfortable calling.  And in the 12 Step programs there are many who’ve been where we’re at and who understand.  We are never alone.  There are other people and of course we have our Higher Power to shore us up in the storm until it subsides and peace returns.

Affirmation for the Day – ” I am reaching out for help. ”

Remember to say the affirmation at least 3 times whenever you remember it, preferably in front of a mirror.

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